Meeting your SoulMate

In my opinion one of the things that people rarely speak openly on is relationships as if it is extremely taboo.My stance on relationships and meeting someone worth spending the rest of your life with is unique and I hope in this blog it resinates with some of you or spark some level of curiosity in how it affects you. You may meet someone worth marrying, maybe twice in one life time. You may meet someone worth truly dating less than five times in one lifetime and date them and they truly be a nice person just not compatible. In between those relationships you meet a bunch of people that tell you exactly what you want to hear, use you, play games, hurt you, serve no purpose beyond sex, and have no ability to please you MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY or SPIRITUALLY.(maybe one out of the three). How you spend your time is your choice so do not blame it on the person you chose to hang with.

Between the ages of 15 and 20 it is okay to sometimes get confused and give the title of THE ONE to every person you meet that makes you feel good. It is natural because you are still learning yourself so there is no flaw in dating all the wrong people. We have to figure out what we want and if there is not a strong foundation at home in a mother or father that is honest about life then you may go through this blindly.

Between the ages of 20 and 25 you should have become more selective in the people you let in your life. At that statge friends around you are not as important. Clubbing and hanging out with the hopes of meeting MR or Mrs right become a poor decision and you should start demanding what you want from a person at this stage because it is a long process of weeding through all the people that tell you exactly what you want to hear, use you, play games, hurt you, serve no purpose beyond sex, and have no ability to please you MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY or SPIRITUALLY.(maybe one out of the three)

After 25 it is simple. If you are still meeting the same type of people that can never graduate beyond being a person that tells you exactly what you want to hear, use you, play games, hurt you, serve no purpose beyond sex, and have no ability to please you MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY or SPIRITUALLY.(maybe one out of the three), then it is not their fault at all. No need voicing frustration over dating, or saying there is no one for you out there. The truth is that you probably passed by the two people worth marrying we meet in a life time a thousand times. He or she probably showed you their sincerity in how they treated you like a person or tried hard to make you feel special and you never noticed them. Chances are you never even met five people really worth dating that may not have been THE ONE but would have gave you meaning relationships to prepare you for THE ONE, and the reason you never met them is probably because you kept dating the same person or type of people over and over again.

There is no game or trickery in finding a person that truly cares and their is nothing new under the sun so the choices you make, although, may be brand new to you, they are not new. History repeats itself when we choose to ignor the obvious. The knuckle head of the 60s that grandma hung out with, The shallow pretty girl of the 80s that dad hung out with, The Rebell of the 90s that ya big cousin hung out with, or the person with only surface level qualities that you hang out with may be different people but the same character.

To truly find peace we must look within self and make a change and not continue to point the finger. True we may be able to find yes men or an amen crowd to tell us we are perfect, right or without blame. In a real world that only helps temporally. Deflecting blame or not addressing what limits us in a relationship keeps us at a stand still. It keeps us focusing on what the other person did wrong and not what self can do better. If you go into or out of situation feeling you loved without blimish it is your own demons that will destroy your ability to create, establish or maintain a healthy relationship.

Outside factors are healthy in a support role but extremely dangerous when including in decision making or growth of relationships built.

After a certain age, and a bunch of bad choices..... You are who you are and the older you get.... The more baggage you bring with you........ The more issues someone have to heal to deal with you....... The harder it is to find a person worth SETTLING DOWN with.......And there is no reward in being a life time person making an excuse when it comes to TRULY BEING HAPPY